Are you tired of being alone? Are you confused about why your friends have dates, while you still long to meet someone? Do you feel shy in social settings? One of my clients came to me with these problems last year. He found it painful to go to bars, parties or social events. He wanted to meet someone but he didn't know how. I am happy to say that currently, he is in a relationship with the girl of his dreams. How did he get there? Here are the seven secrets he learned: * Show up! You've got to get out of the house. Make a plan, Stan. Take out your calendar, call your friends, and commit to going places. When you make agreements, the odds are that you will keep them. * Be friendly. If you feel shy or socially awkward, you need to practice talking to strangers. Go to the mall and find an agreeable looking guy you don't know. Ask him a question. Repeat this process over and over. This technique works! Then, when you get to a social setting, scan the room for an interesting woman, get near her, and ask her a question. If you like her, keep talking. * Grooming Counts. Women like men who are clean, well groomed, and who smell good. Your aftershave should not shout when you enter a room, but a faint masculine scent is appealing. Clean nails, hands, hair, and clothes are necessary. Go through your wardrobe and ask a woman friend what looks good on you. *There's magic in your eyes! Women are drawn to men who look them in the eyes when they talk. But here is a major secret few people know, told to me by an expert colorist: wear something the color of your eyes and notice how people are attracted to you. Actually, the eyes have many shades of colors. Identify what they are exactly and then choose clothing that matches one of those colors. My client wore a shirt the color of green in his eyes and he became irresistible! * Polish your communication skills. Wit and humor can be endearing, but don't let it slip the bounds of putting yourself or other people down. Women like men who listen, and reflect back to them what they heard. * Have a promising future. Women are attracted to a man with a great career or a great career plan. It doesn't matter how successful she is--she wants to know that a guy can take care of her if she needs him to. * Attitude affects everything. Avoid blaming and complaining, as well as talking about your Ex, your boss, or anyone you feel victimized by. If you have some past relationships that haunt you, get some counseling. Enthusiasm, confidence, and an upbeat outlook on life are very sexy. When my client understood that he had what he needed to attract whom he wanted, he polished his best qualities, focused on his strengths instead of his limitations, and enjoyed his new-found power. All he needed was to learn these seven secrets. |
