If youve ever caught someone in the act, then youve certainly felt a little warmer in that moment. You thought about being there, and feeling what they were feeling. Just talking about it makes me all excited. So when youre swinging, what about looking at the scenery? Well, that certainly has its place as well. Opening Your Eyes When youre first in a swinging situation, you may feel almost too aroused to do anything but watch. For the first few times I was with my partner, we just looked at the other couple in awe. For one, we were in awe of their openness. And for two, we were excited to see someone else being pleasured. Just when you think youre not turned on by something, then you try it and realize, wow, thats amazing. I think that many people feel ashamed to say that they like to watch others have sex or touch each other. And why should we? Its a completely natural act. And how empowering is it to be absolutely comfortable to watch someone else? Very. Will The Other Couple Mind? If its just you two and another couple, then you may want to broach the subject ahead of time. And if they say that its okay, then you can feel completely comfortable to watch them in action. You may also feel aroused and follow suit, or pleasure yourself as you watch. Again, clear this with them ahead of time. Most couples wont mind if you ask. And if youre in a swingers club, its almost guaranteed that youre going to be seen if you start anything, so its a free for all for voyeurs. Remembering to blink may be hard though. What If Were Asked To Perform? Think of being the subject of a fantasy as being in your favourite erotic movie and you are the stars. Forget about who is watching and let the moment take you and your partner to ecstasy. Pleasure him or her as you normally would. Touch their skin, feel their thighs, slowly tease the sighs out. If you really want to make an impression, open your eyes and look to the other couple. Let them know how much this turns you on, and how wonderful something feels. Why Do You Look? Looking at difference shapes of bodies is intriguing. And in a comfortable setting, you will see that it really isnt the size that matters, but the confidence of the person. Women arent judged by their weight and men arent seen for the length of their penis. Men arent counting another mans abs, and women arent considering the bounce of the breasts. You look because youre curious, but you continue looking because you can see the beauty in everyone. In most cases, looking will only satisfy so much and you will want to be the ones looked at. And that is completely natural and enthralling. Knowing that someone is watching you and getting pleasure from it can turn an ordinary moment into an erotic scene. |
